A friend of mine recently lost someone close to them and almost immediately requested that I help them to contact this person. I am not in the habit of trying to contact the dead spirits of those who have passed with any particular purpose, but I offered to help seeing how distraught he was.

I did this however with some reservation and I felt the need to explain to him why that was. To contact ghost relatives is an uncertain business, this I think he knew and was prepared for disappointment. What was more difficult to explain was that over the years I have gotten quite a lot of advice about this very thing from paranormal beings and their collective opinion is often that it is in general, a bad idea.

I will try to pass on what I have been told as I understand it.

Many of them understand the pain people feel when losing a loved one. It is terrible, perhaps the most terrible feeling in life. However, many of them do not seem to think it worth quite the amount of suffering people generally put into it. I have always supposed this is because from their point of view, it really isn’t so terrible. This may be easily understood as a general idea, but is perhaps not of much comfort for those who are suffering.

The warning I have received most often when it comes to contacting deceased loved ones is that anyone doing should be aware of two very important things: Deception and Change.

The first of these warning should be rather obvious when a person is of a rational sort of mind, but unfortunately when something in the room tells one that it is the very being of someone one has lost, one tends to become a little irrational. Many people will look for proof at this point. A secret only that person and the deceased loved one might have known.

Unfortunately this doesn’t always mean that the experience is real. Thoughts can often be used like paranormal props; whether by another being in the room pretending to be someone they are not, or even by the person hoping to see their loved one.

In recent years we have seen evidence that might even suggest people are capable of conjuring something like a ghost out of nothing, or at least seemingly nothing. Whether in these cases groups have conjured an actual being or simply drawn one in who adopted the details in order to make people believe this I cannot say. The point is however, such a detail may not be proof enough.

The second of the two warnings points to the idea that once dead people can change greatly, sometimes so much so that they might be unrecognizable in many ways. In cases such as this the personality, appearance, audible voice (of some kind) may in no way reflect the living person.

The point is that before a person tries to make contact with one whom they have lost they need to be prepared to walk away with uncertainty. If comfort is what is being sought, this may not prove to be the solution for some and may even make the situation worse. I personally have witness many different outcomes to this kind of event and my only hope is that those who seek it out do so with understanding.

Goodbye for now, another end.
Until a time we meet again.

-Seline